Isn’t it funny how when conversations are about guilt, regret, feeling ashamed, being afraid, having insecurities, and just vulnerability in general, many humans act like they can’t relate? That’s a big reason why I don’t fuck with people—they are seldom sincere and straightforward. There’s a secret to being strong-minded, and it’s actually quite simple. If you want to be strong, stop giving a fuck! You’ll be surprised how many of your self-loathing feelings derive from the anticipation of unfavorable opinions. “What are people going to do and say if they find out?” “Oh my God, this is going to be so embarrassing!” “I don’t want people to know that I’m not perfect.” Anxiety is the root of so many mental and physical issues, and it’s often caused by the mere thought of people viewing one in a negative light. Do you know why I don’t give a fuck? Well, there’s a few reasons. One, I love myself more than I hate the idea of people hating me. Humans ain’t shit, and history is the evidence. Two, I appreciate that things will never be one way. Everyone will be perceived from varying perspectives, and nobody is only loved or hated—you’re going to be both. Diverging slightly, I was thinking, and I wonder if it’s more difficult to get out of one’s own head or to get others out of one’s head. Better yet, in one’s head, how does one distinguish oneself from everyone else? There are a lot of psychological “disorders” that highlight “hearing voices” as a symptom of illness. But how often is the aforementioned anticipation of opinions, and even the internal replaying of previously experienced negative reactions to you and your actions, loud inside your head? In other words, how often are thoughts and memories glaring and overwhelming? If inner dialogue isn’t a sign of mental illness, what frequency or volume of “hearing voices” signifies that something’s wrong? My problem with the practice of psychology has always been individuals’ susceptibility to influence, or their proclivities toward acquiescence and the acceptance of normalcy. Like I be sayin’, normal ain’t natural. And because we all go through a range of emotions and mental states—with some lasting longer than others—in addition to there being various personality types and personal outlooks, I believe that having single psychologists, therapists, behavioral specialists, etc. finalize diagnoses isn’t propitious to the accuracy of those diagnoses. How many humans—regardless of their education and experience—can be truly objective and ignore their personal feelings and beliefs when operating in an official capacity? Mental healthiness is a priority for me, so much so that I question other humans’ definition of healthiness. If “perception is reality,” but perceptions can be obscured by lack of insight, misunderstandings, and sheer stupidity, what’s seems real for some may not be factually real, right? And if that’s the case, how many universally held beliefs—such as notions of normalcy and ideas of healthiness—are even based in factuality or actuality? Maybe we should focus more on factuality or actuality than perceptions of reality. Because the actual fact of the matter is, if being healthy and normal means being more like the average human, I’d rather be perceived as unhealthy and abnormal. Now, that may sound silly to you, but that’s your obscured perception of reality psyching your mind. Again, why should anyone want to be more like you? I’d like for everyone to really think about that and answer it to yourselves. People’s lives are predicated on their perceptions, which is why many people perceive reality as the projection of their notions and ideas instead of the reflection of what actually is. Some of you are far stronger and smarter than you think, but it’s your perception of those things that be fuckin’ with your heads. This is all just food for thought.
So, Happy Thanksgiving to everyone who’s celebrating it. And shout-out to everyone who’s choosing not to be bothered with people’s bullshit this holiday season. Happiness can be whatever you perceive it to be. Shit, if the average motherfucker views their fallacies as reality without being labeled ill, anything is possible. Y’all, people want me to be “normal” so fucking bad, and I’m disappointing and demoralizing a lot of people who believed they understood psychology. To those who are puzzled, I regret to inform y’all that you can’t and won’t figure me out because your perceptions are obscured. Anyhoo, I really hate repeating myself. What’s your biggest pet peeve? Nothing annoys me more than stupid people. And I don’t mean people who make mistakes and misbehave on occasion, but people who think they understand shit while being oblivious to the facts. Nonetheless, I want to move on to something more positive. I’m swiftly approaching being in the best shape of my life, mentally and physically, and it feels amazing. And while some of you are moving toward a traditional and significant seasonal weight gain, I would like to remind you that feeling good about yourself makes you feel good in general. A little intermittent fasting and replacing alcoholic and sugary beverages with water may keep you from packing on too much depressing weight. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be? Personally, I would like to stop overthinking so much. I never want to lose my wit and intelligence, but I recognize that I think a little too much sometimes. And with that being said, how often do you complete a task and believe that you didn’t spend enough time planning and strategizing? Finishing the job and optimizing the results don’t go hand in hand. I’m not saying that one should strive for perfection, because we all know how stressful that can be. I’m just implying that we’re all disappointed with the end result from time to time. One of the pros of being a ruminative person is having the tendency to work out all the kinks before executing a plan or strategy. But the cons come in with spending so much time working out the kinks that windows of opportunity pass. Much like the universe, life requires balance for everything to turn out just right. And figuring out what’s “just right” per your perception will take some experimentation. Whether you think too much for some things and don’t think enough for other things, finding out what works best for you is all that matters. I’m telling y’all, if you can get comfortable responsibly not giving a fuck, comprehensive comfortability will become normal for you. Because if the average person is overthinking anything, it’s how they’re being observed through humans’ obscured perceptions. I may be going out on a limb here, but I believe that most people don’t like being unfairly judged. And to avoid being criticized and ridiculed, many people just go along with general perceptions of right and wrong, good and bad, etc. If happiness isn’t important to you, by all means, do them. Notice I said “do them” instead of do you, because matching or emulating someone else’s perception of anything makes you a copycat—an imitation. But perhaps making other people happy by allowing them to manipulate you makes you happy. Is that true for you? If it’s not, may I suggest that you get comfortable with people disliking, disapproving of, and disagreeing with you? There are plenty of motherfuckers out there who will never know their place. And there are even more with warped perceptions of reality. Again, in factuality or actuality, we should respect the respectable, but we don’t all have to give a fuck about each other. Apply that to your family, co-workers, neighbors, and whomever the fuck else you perceive it applies to. This is all just more food for thought. Peace.